Good Questions...

Today's question is from a client getting married in Carmel. There is wonderful golf in the Valley and of course the infamous Pebble Beach so a golf outing for those who enjoy it is a must!

My fiance and I want to have a golf outing for any guests who want to attend but we really don't want to have to pay for everyone's round of golf. How do we write this on the invitation in a nice way?

This is where having a wedding website can really come in handy. If you want to include this information in your invitation you need to have an activities or information card that lists the weekend events. This is a great idea if you are having a destination wedding. You can list this as one of the activities in the itinerary and then direct people to your wedding website for more details. On the website you can write how much a round of golf costs and the number to call to reserve a tee time. If you don't want to have a wedding website you can list a phone number to call for tee times and costs on the activities card.

Generally speaking if you include a line item for golf on your RSVP card then guests will assume you are handling the reservation and paying for the cost. If they need to call to reserve themselves it can be assumed they will need to pay. This works for other outings like kayaking, horseback riding, yoga or wine tasting as well.

If you don't want to include this on your invitation you can call or e-mail your guests informally to let them know but you have to make sure you reach everyone or you run the risk of offending someone by not inviting them.

If budget allows it can be fun to have your wedding photographer stop by for your events to document the weekend like Julie and Jared did for their yoga/golf day with the fabulous Anna Kuperberg.